This broadcast is over 31 days old and is no longer available to stream. Cynthia Tobias and Jean Daly describe how parents can navigate the frustration and challenges of raising strong-willed children. Our guests also explain how couples can get on the same page in their parenting approach. Cynthia Tobias: I can tell you not only from my standpoint, but from hundreds and get lost dannah gresh pdf of strong-willed kids that I’ve talked to.
Raising your voice in anger, it almost never works. It doesn’t have a positive effect on us. You can yell and scream, but now you’ve made yourself irrelevant, because I’ve already just shut down, going, “Oh, brother. Your calm and firm voice is almost always gonna have a much better effect than your anger. John Fuller: Okay now, when you heard that calm voice delivering that advice, did you just wince a little bit maybe? It’s so easy to lose our temper when our kids are testing our limits.
If you struggle with that, stay tuned. We have some great trusted advice and this is “Focus on the Family” with Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller and Jim, we just can’t seem to talk enough about parenting that strong-willed, aggressive, confrontational child. Jim Daly: Well, yeah, there’s nothin’ new under the sun and that child seems to be popping up in everybody’s family.
So, maybe you’re blessed as a parent to have two very compliant children and you should get on your knees tonight and say, “Thank You, Lord. But some of us do have strong-willed children and Cynthia Tobias, just in her voice, you can hear that. We’re coming back to this topic today, because it’s one of the most popular broadcasts of the past year and it’s part of our 12-CD set, featuring Kathi Koch about how your child is smart, healthy eating advice with David Meinz, Juli Slattery and Dannah Gresh, their thoughts on the 50 Shades of Grey, which was one of the most popular programs. John: Yeah, you can get the CDs or the download of the best “Focus on the Family” programs from 2014 when you call us at 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY or you can order right now at www. Jim: John, anytime we’re talking about the challenges of parenting, I can feel the ears leaning maybe a bit closer to the radio or maybe those joggers who are pushin’ the ear buds in just a bit, because based on response, we know this is one of the biggest needs that we all have.
And Cynthia Tobias, like I said, is wonderful at bringing that truth. She and my wife Jean joined us to talk about how to parent your strong-willed child as a teen. John: Well, let’s go ahead and hear this Best of 2014 “Focus on the Family” radio program. Body:Jim: You’re a police officer, as well as a teacher and hopefully, a good parent. But that combination has really given you incredible perspective. Cynthia: Yes, that’s the least of it.
John: –are admittedly a strong-willed individual. It takes one to know one and then I have one. My mother prayed that would be so. Now you’ve written his book and we’ve talked about it.
The title is You Can’t Make Me, But I Can Be Persuaded. If you have a strong-willed child, you know exactly what that title is saying. Jim: And as you said, Cynthia, you were one and I’m not sure as an adult, has that played out in your adult life, as well? Cynthia: Oh, yes, I’m afraid if you asked my husband, Jack, he would tell you.
But it never really leaves you. Cynthia: –like I give my husband. Jim: — well, I think Jean, you would say that you’re a strong-willed wife. Jean Daly: No and I’m curious, Cynthia, because I am sorry to admit that I am a very strong-willed parent and wife, but I was a compliant child and is that typical? It was survival of the fittest and I was not the fittest.
Cynthia: Well, that’s not unusual, I find a lot of adults who just kind of finally come into their own once they get away from home and realize, because you’re valued for certain things and you are kinda surrounded by others that overpower you. So, as a strong-willed person, you just decide not worth it. Jim: Let’s talk about that million-dollar question that we set up at the top of the program. How does a parent restrain from that anger response and really come down to the firm voice? Because I think in the Christian community particularly, we are very much about the rules.